Having been married to an alcoholic, and now going through this crazy chaos with alcoholic #2, I’ve had a vague idea about what co-dependency is. This article describes it with such clarity, that I couldn’t help but reblog it
The term codependency has been around for almost four decades. Although it originally applied to spouses of alcoholics, first called co-alcoholics, research revealed the characteristics of codependents were much more prevalent in the general population than had been previously known.
Psychologists have found if you were raised in a dysfunctional family or had an ill parent, you’re likely codependent. They also found codependent symptoms got worse if left untreated.
The following is a list of symptoms. You needn’t have them all to qualify.
1. Low Self-Esteem
Feeling you’re not good enough or comparing yourself to others are signs of low self-esteem. Some people give the impression they think highly of themselves, but it’s only a disguise—they actually feel unlovable or inadequate. Underneath, usually hidden from consciousness, are feelings of shame. Guilt and perfectionism often go along with low self-esteem because if everything is perfect, you feel less bad about yourself.
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